tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3354184484343612062.post391764663392752343..comments2014-05-14T03:24:01.698+10:00Comments on It's Not Brain Science: Very Long; If Anyone Reads It All, I'll Be ImpressedJunteihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17532069194131326024noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3354184484343612062.post-48298386831184690042014-05-07T00:49:46.079+10:002014-05-07T00:49:46.079+10:00This one's also great, from an earlier email o...This one's also great, from an earlier email of his. Note no specifics of my wrong behaviour and talk of my being in 'denial' so we couldn't discuss things properly before, either. Plus his twisting it so perfectly around to being my fault and not taking it 'personally'. Ugh. Asshole.<br /><br />"You do have a problem with self-regulation, because you (self-admittedly) react in ways when anxiety/emotional brained that when you calm down you understand were not helpful/in your best interest, etc. And you do have a problem with dependence, which, other than being observable, you've said as much yourself when you've calmed down. This is not something that just came out on the night after Mardi Gras, though that was the point at which I realised it had reached a problematic level. These are not imaginary hurdles, regardless of how you are feeling right this moment. <br /><br />Now, whilst I accept my part in not being vigilant enough in trying to help you, to not let it become a dependence thing, the communication was /impossible/ until after you spoke to [REDACTED] on Wednesday. Because you were both in denial about the problem and quite defensive/hostile about it. Evidenced by times since the day [REDACTED] came over last week or the week before when I /have/ talked to you about it. <br /><br />So whilst I accept that non-communication might be triggering for you, I do not feel responsible for being the trigger. Nor, given the context, do I think it's fair of you to try to tell me I'm responsible for. <br /><br />Now, if after calming down and maybe talking to [REDACTED] or [REDACTED] you realise that much of what you've just said was in no small way disturbing, I'm happy to ignore it. Either way I haven't taken it personally, or let it impact how I feel about you. "Junteihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17532069194131326024noreply@blogger.com